How do you get the perfect balance in life?
I often wonder how other moms do it and get a balance between work, kids and personal time.
This struck me last night as I received a phone call from my local gym offering me a 2 week free membership. I told the girl that it was a very nice offering but unfortunately, I had to decline because I simply do not have time to go to the gym. She said "You have to make time". I got annoyed, and said thanks but no thanks and hung up.
I sat there and thought about it and I really don't have time. This is what our schedule is like:
Monday - Eve goes to school, Lilah goes to daycare, I grocery shop, clean, laundry do other errands. Pick the girls up at 3:30, play for a bit, make dinner, bath, read & Bed. Then I catch up on my favourite blogs and make my goodies for my Etsy shop thats opening soon.
Tuesday - we have the same morning routine, but I work 9-5. Same evening routine.
Wednesday & Thursday - Same as Tuesday
Friday - Eve goes to school, and I spend the day with Lilah. We go out sometimes, we stay home sometimes, we take an afternoon nap together. I love every single second of my day with her. We get Eve from school at 3:30, then it's the same evening routine.
Weekends are always full. We always have something on. Eve either has a birthday party, or we have something to attend. We try and get out in the garden, or tackle a project we've put on the back burner. Sometimes we will get up and go out for the day. We'll get in the car, drive somewhere, pick a place to eat, and spend the day out.
All while this happens, hubs works. His schedule varies day to day. The tricky part about his job is that he works shifts and doesn't find out what hes working the next day until that day at 2:30. I can't schedule anything around him or count on him to be there for the kids. I'm the dependable one when it comes to the kids.
So how would I fit in going to the gym?. I could possibly go Monday and Friday but I feel horrible sticking Lilah into another daycare for an hour even while I work out. I just can't take that time away from her.
Don't get me wrong - I would LOVE to go to the gym!. I would love to shed 15 kilos....but I just don't know where I can fit that in!.
My life has become this balancing act that I constantly struggle with. I feel guilty if I don't spend enough time with the kids, and then I feel guilty if I didn't call my mom on Sunday because we went out.
How do you manage to find balance? Is there such a thing as "the perfect balance"?