Friday, July 29, 2011

The Inevitable


It's Friday here which means that it's my day off.  I went shopping with Lilah today to AirPort West Shopping Centre and Target was our first stop.

Before we even walked in I knew I was headed for trouble.  Through the glass was a display climbing contraption smack dab in the middle of the Ladies clothing.  Ofcourse it had a sign on it that read "Please do not climb".  This thing was right as you walk in the door and could not be missed by any toddler.  And ofcourse, my toddler didn't miss it.  

Lilah ran straight for it and kept saying 'slide slide".   I reluctantly let her play on it for a few minutes.  I stood there in the middle of the ladies clothing section preparing myself for the screaming, and back arching when I told her it was time to go and to get off the apparatus.  






I said in a nice voice "ok, come on now Lulu, it's time to go" - she ignored me.  I said it again in a nice tone of voice and attempted to grab her hand, but it she quickly flung it away and kept on going.  I knew.  I knew I was in for a fight...in Target, close to the entrance where people are walking in and out and would be staring at me.  Also, remember that this climbing structure is in front of the glass so all the people outside Target that are sitting down at the coffee place enjoying their cuppa will be seeing my toddler screaming and flailing herself all over the place.  

So I stood there for another few minutes because I just wasn't ready to have this fight with my 21 month old.  

I finally grabbed her hand and just as she's about to fling it away and say "Noooooo", I grabbed it a little tighter and tried re-directing her away from the structure.  She then turned into this pasta noodle flopping all over the floor and screaming.  



I'd say that i'm relatively new to this toddler tantrum throwing thing because Eve never did this type of thing.  She was always so good, and I could coax her into leaving something like this without a fight.  Lilah is such a different child and I knew the inevitable was going to happen when I attempted to take her away from playing.  

I am that mom now.  I'm that mom in Target and the supermarket with the screaming child.  

What do you do when your child throws a fit in public??


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136 comments:

Trisha @ 3 Four and Under said...

Oh I totally understand! My boys would be on that within seconds flat. And I would have both of them screaming, and I would have to leave the store. What were they thinking putting that up in the middle of the store and then expecting little kids to not go on it. That's just ridiculous! The employee that decided to put that up is obviously Not a parent.

DH said...

I do too! Mine is 16months and has already begun throwing tantrums whenever i take away something she wants (usually those things she's not supposed to grab) or i politely invite her to leave the park with me. I had read they started at 2 and she's not even 1 1/2! I'm really looking forward to reading what others have done

Lisa said...

Aww....I feel your pain sometimes. My youngest is 5, but he still is a strong willed child!
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Cerrisse said...

I feel ya! My little one is only 12 months and when I take him off of a swing or anything else he attracts attention! I am scared to take him to a theme park, afraid he will do the same thing.

Jade Steckly said...

I'm your newest follower from LMM! I tried following you, but it says the widget isn't working :(
BTW, my 2 year old is a tantrum thrower too. I am lost as to how to stop them...nothing seems to be working!

-jade

Nicole@MissMommy said...

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Chelsea.Rose said...

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Salena said...

Hi! I'm a new follower from LMM. :)

Oh boy, I know too well the tantrum throwing in public. Always in public to cause a scene and make me feel so tiny in totally huge embarrasement. I have 6 kids, 3 are adults and 3 are little girls. My 6 yr old has special needs so her tantrums are extreme and once it starts there is no calming her down. I would need to physically pick her up and drag her out of the store while she was kicking and screaming like I was abducting her. Took her outside till she felt it was time to stop and then warned her about dragging her back out if she continued once we went back in. She has super strength and fights me everytime I have to take her out. I have total sympathy for any parent with a child who is having a melt down. Especially because their child may have special needs too and there may be nothing that parent can do to calm the child down.

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Ashley said...

Jeez, they should not have something like that up. Those jerks! I'm a nanny and I hate the sweating bullets trying to get kids to behave in public, it just sucks sometimes.

I'm stopping by from LMM.:]

Jaclyn said...

I'm your newest follower from LMM...and I'm not sure I'm looking forward to the toddler tantrum stage!

soelusive said...

Heya! I came across from LMM's and started following you! I feel you with the tantrum things, I have teenagers who are still the same! lol

Visiting Teaching said...

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Laura P said...

Weeelll... visiting teaching would be me. Totally logged on with the wrong account!

Laura said...

Luckily we're now out of the tantrum stage (for the most part) with my 4 year old, but we've all been there. (I'm a new follower from LMM) Hang in there!

Kodi said...

I'm here from LMM. I have two boys, and my almost 2 year-old is at that awesome fit throwing age too. Yay! ;)

Tammy said...

Just been looking through some of your posts (sent here through LMM), I think you will become a new fave of mine =) this kind of thing happens to me all the time, depending on my mood, I pick my son up very calmly and just walk away, trying to handle the kicking and wriggling. Or if it's a bad day, I will do the same as you, I will take his hand and try and gently pull him until he finally comes (of course I don't yank him away - didn't mean it to sound that way hehe). Or, I tell him I am going and say bye, take a couple of steps, this is usually enough to make him come with me.

It's hard sometimes, everyone looks at you as if your not doing anything to stop this, sometimes you get sympathetic comments, but eventually it will stop (unless of course my son is like my sister who would have a tantrum at 8 years old in the line at the supermarket because she wanted a chocolate bar- I hope not)

Cheeky D said...

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Hannah said...

I am here from LMM. I also have a toddler. A 26 month old boy. I said I would neve rbe that mom and like you, I am that mom. It frequently is in Target as well since we go there every week. Sometimes if I prepare him in advance and we "talk" about what we are doing and how we have to leave and no crying will occur he does better. But lets face it, he is a toddler and throws me off every day!

Krissa G. said...

New follower sent from LMM!!! My 2 year old likes to do the limp noodle thing sometimes 2!! You are so not alone!! :)

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Stopping by from LMM! :0)

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Barbara said...

I wish I had advice, but I usually just leave the store rather than let the tantrum continue.

tessica said...

i'm new from lmm and the limp noodle is THE WORST!!

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Delaney said...

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Andi said...

I just dropped by from LMM but can I tell you I remember those days. All 6 of my kids are so completely different I felt like a new mom all the time. (still do some days) Whatever you do, keep your sense of humor. These awful, stressful, sometimes embarrassing mom days will be the best stories to embarrass your kids with later!

Jodi said...

I've been a faithful reader for sometime buy just became a followerer from LMM!

How I remember those days of dreading the impending tantrum!

Em said...

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LadyMcKee said...

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Melissa said...

I love that you stopped to take a couple of pics of her wet noodle tantrum! :) Just shows that you're taking it in stride and are doing a great job! (BTW, new here from LMM).

Stephanie said...

Hi! Stopping by via Little Miss Momma!!!

I feel for you in the tantrum department. My daughter is 26 months old, but I feel like we have been int he terrible-two's since she was 15 months old. One day when she was screaming in the shopping cart for no reason, I just told her to scream louder because they couldn't hear her in the sporting goods department yet. She eventually calmed down. Lol...I couldn't walk out on a basket of groceries. I got some pretty nasty looks, but whatever. You can't reason with toddlers...and it happens to every mom. So you've got millions of sympathizers. :)

Mandys Creative Corner said...

My son is a professional tantrum thrower. I bragged about how amazing he was when he was a baby at going and spending all day with me shopping, but right around his 2nd birthday it took a terrible turn. Since then I have officially been "that mom" in every store I shop in =( Once in Walmart I actually had one of the sales people ask me if he was my child because he was fighting me so bad they thought I might have stolen him... I have left more full shopping carts in more stores than I can count, because I couldn't take it anymore and had to carry him to the car and leave.

For a while there I stopped taking him and always had him babysat, but the last couple months I've had to start bringing him with me again and it started all over again. I have gotten much better at taking snacks and A LOT of those organic lollipops in my purse to keep him occupied while I run (literally) through the store before he finishes. But I still haven't found a solution for when I purposely miss the toy section only to run into an isle stack in the grocery section of Lightning McQueen toys that he cannot live without.

Oh the joys of motherhood =)

Dropping by from LMM, love your blog!!

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Danielle said...

I say if they don't want kids climbing on it, why don't they move it somewhere on top of a shelf or something. Its like putting out bowls of chocolate candy out and telling people not to eat it.

Cute blog though! I'm stopping by from LMM!!

Erica @ Acire Adventures said...

Awe! I always whisper stern threats in his ears if he's throwing a tantrum in public. It's usually something about Santa.... :)

Mary@PiccolaJellyfish said...

Glad I'm not the only one with this problem! lol. My daughter will be 20 months, next week, and I am in the same boat as you! BTW, she is a little cutie!

Stopping over here from LMM for the first time. Love your blog!

Mary

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I feel your pain with the tantrum stage. I have an almost 3 year old boy who is very independent and who already has the selective hearing. It's rough sometimes! I'll say a prayer for ya ;)

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Heather said...

Hi, I'm visiting from Little Miss Momma's and am now a follower of your blog. :) I can totally relate. With my toddler, when he doesn't want to leave this really nice farmers-market-type deli place we visit that has toy food for kids to play with, I just coax him into going by saying "Do you want to hold Mama's keys?" Usually that works. Sometimes if I still have to pay for some produce or something I'll give him the money and tel him he can give it to the lady at the cash register. I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells though because I don't want him to have the screaming fit.

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prov3130grl said...

Awww... toddler tantrums are the worst - I am not a mom, but I am a nanny. I wish I had some advice, but I usually try a distraction tactic and talk really softly so that he has to get closer to me to listen. I'm sure it will be different when I have my own kids, though. Lol!

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Amanda said...

Every kid is so different! I used to be able to take my daughter everywhere and she was a perfect angel. Now my son is a whole different story! Don't worry though. All of us mommies will only give you a sympathy look because we sure know what that's like! I'm a new follower from LMM!

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Maranda and Josh said...

Stopping by from LMM! I'm not a mom yet, but teaching the three year olds in sunday school helps me to better understand what you went through! But I can only bet that things will get better :)

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Kate said...

Found you on LMM and am following here and FB :)

I have no idea what to do about tantrums. My baby is only 4 months, so if you ever figure this out, let me know :)

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Katie Johnson said...

Hi, I'm here from LMM! I wish I had some great advice on kid's tantrums, but my little girl is only 8 months. However, if she's anything like I was when I was little, I'm in for it.. So if you get any amazing advice, I know I'd love to hear it. Gotta prepare!! Can't wait to read more on your blog :)

Lacy said...

Stopping by from LMM...I have a little boy who just turned 2 yesterday, I've been the Target mom as well. Now when we go to Target, I put him in the cart outside the store and that's where he stays. I know a mom who immediately takes them out of the store and gives them a spanking in the car...whatever works:)

Tiffany said...

Stopping by from LMM and now following here and Facebook.
Tantrums, my youngest 13 months old, has ALREADY started doing the limp noodle thing, I have always addressed tantrums in public, because I would rather whisper threats under my breath than listen to my child scream not to mention the evil eyes I get from other people is enough to drive me out of the store with said screaming child. And believe me, if I have to leave a store because my child is screaming, he will have to do time for his crime. Only once have I actually left, and when we got home I took every single toy out of reach and made him sit in time out and he wasn't allowed to watch tv for the rest of the day.

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Christy said...

Found you from LMM! I am currently one of those Mom's too. My daughter is a DRAMA queen and will throw tantrums in the middle of stores also. It's embarrassing but I let her because I don't want her to think I'll just give in all the time. Luckily they grow out of it. :)

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Amy said...

Coming from LLM. I can totally relate with the tantrums. I have a almost 4yo boy and a 7 month old boy, and they keep me on my toes. So excited to be able to check out your blog.

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Mrs. Prince said...

I fear that i'm going to have that tantrum throwing child also!! I'm interested to see what you figure out! lol I'm here from LLM!

~*~Renee~*~ said...

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Jessica said...

new follower & stopping by from LMM!!

and i totally understand with tantrums out in public. we finally have come to the point of taking snacks/suckers/toys or anything to the store with us to keep my son occupied. if he goes bonkers, my husband will take him away. or we just don't take him out! heehee!

Lindsay said...

Stopping by from LMM. I've had moments just like this with my 2-year old son. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one. LOL! Love your blog...new follower! :)

Andi Adams said...

I'm a new follower!! I stopped by from LMM! I am not a Mom yet, but good luck!! :)

Lea Nance said...

Hey Nicole, jumping over from Little Miss Mommy! I have a four year that knows exactly when to throw a fit in public (like the day I have a horrendous headache, or my Mother in Law is with me). I simply tell him that I understand he is upset and that when he is done with his tantrum we will talk about it, but I will not listen to him scream in the store and other people won't either. If it's a smaller store where I can still see him, I will turn away and show that I am not giving him attention for that. He has gotten much better over time and I promise your little one will too!

Sally @ A Blessed Existence said...

Hello!! Stopping by from LMM.

First, I love the name Lilah, so pretty!! Second, I just gather my son up and carry him out when he tantrums in public. He's only ever done this to me once, and he was so sad that he had to leave the store. I don't know if that's what made him keep from doing it again or not, but I was just so glad he did. ;) Good luck!

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Kari said...

Cute blog. Little Miss Momma sent me! I am in love with the Tiffany Ring!

Lea said...

Stopping by from LMM! And tantrums are "fun"!

shirelle and skylar said...

I'm a new follower, stopping by from LMM! and loving your blog already.

Sheri said...

Hi! I came from LMM's site and I'm a new follower. Your blog is so cute! I have 3 girls so i've been through the tantrum thing. I used to just scoop them up and get the heck out of there. Or bribe them. haha....a mommy's gotta do what a mommy's gotta do. Good luck! You'll get through it!

Sheri

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Simplegirl said...

I'm so glad that I stopped here from LMM, I know what you mean, it was rough with my little boy, he's 5 now, but I thought those days would never end. It seems like every time I aksed for patience I got the opposite. I learned my lesson though, I stopped asking for patience and let me tell you, it got easier, go figure. I'm a new follower of your blog from LLM. Thnak you for that great giveaway!

Stephanie said...

Headed over here from LMM, and following! BTW, you have an adorable daughter!

Mandy said...

:D LMM said to say hi

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JoEllen said...

I think we've all been there! It will pass though =) I'm stopping by from LMM.

Marife A said...

Stopped by from LMM!! I know that feeling all too well and my daughter is only 16 months. Many a times we have just abandoned carts because of the screaming fits or the evil stares from people. My child isn't always this way, I promise I tell them, only to get even more glaring looks of my unfit parenting. Sigh. But then you get the sympathetic looks from moms who know what you're going through and give you the knowing look and all you can do is breathe. Sometimes I can coax my daughter with snacks at the store, but really I just want to be able to reason with my daughter instead of having to always "bribe" her with snacks. Hang in there Mama!

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Jessica said...

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Sarah @ Scissors and a Whisk said...

I'm stopping by from LMM... but I've already been following <3

AllyceR said...

I'm excited to start following your blog. I am stopping by from LMM. After reading this post, I can't wait to hear about more of your adventures in parenting as I am expecting a baby girl in December. Happy weekend!

wichiepoo said...

Stopping by from LMM, new follower as well!

Sweet Creations (Kimberly) said...

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Chrissy @ Boerman Ramblings said...

So been there. and am sure i have a lot more to come. visiting from LMM your newest follower

Lisa Somerville said...

Visiting from LMM! Cute blog! I am sure I'll be a follower now! :)

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So glad I saw your blog of LMM! Thanks for the giveaway! But thanks more for the blog! Love it!

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Babymama said...

Stopping by from LMM -
And that is exactly what ALL of my shopping expeditions end like. :)
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Vanessa@Lovin-Life said...

New follower from LMM

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Im a new follower from LMM!

Lacey said...

Hi - I've 'wandered' in from 5 days 5 ways .... and as a mother of a 9 month old, I can tell you that I am DREADING when this happens to me. Like you say though, it's inevitable right?

Wendy said...

New follower from LMM. I can totally relate. I just keep going and ignore her screaming. I also have sympathy for any parent in the same situation. Just remember, others have been in the same situation before.

Anonymous said...

I feel ya! My almost 3 yr old locked himself in the dressing room today at Target, the meltdown that occured afterwards was not pretty. He was half in/half out of the cart screaming to get out.
Stopping by from LMM!

~*~Renee~*~ said...

every mom has been there once in their life... if you let it show that it is bothering you, it will bother other people. but you know what...they will understand because we have all been there. if your daughter has a real hard time with separation anxiety, like mine does, when this happens and she doesnt want to go with you, just say fine mommy is leaving, i am not staying here. and take a few steps away (dont really leave her). my daughter will say mommy no. and come running for me, it never fails. i tell her oh you want to come with mommy now? she says yes!! it works every time :)

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